Finish this sentence: When I’m my dream weight/size/health I’ll finally be able to __________.
My challenge: GO DO IT.
Yes, right now! Whatever it is that you think you have to wait for until you get to that magic number. There’s this paradox with healthy living that I’ve seen time and again with my clients. Most people have some vision of HEALTHY THEM that they feel like they can’t possibly enjoy or experience right now. And yet, when they’re challenged to bring some of that future self into their life today… when they start dressing, feeling, playing the part… magic happens. Suddenly HEALTHY THEM comes into being, not by way of force, but by way of flow. The more women ease into who they’re meant to be BEFORE everything else falls into place, the more healthy living becomes a natural part of who they are, instead of serving as a means or permission to become that person.
SO. If your fill-in-the-blank was to wear a certain kind of outfit, that right now you just know you would pick and pull at, I challenge you to go out and buy yourself the skinniest jeans, whitest dress, sleeveless top, highest pumps or hottest little number you can find. Just because you love it, end of story. 🤚
If it was to feel more confident at the beach, then put on your favorite bathing suit and book yourself a day at a hotel pool. (Or if you live somewhere warm and beachside year round… great life choice on your part right about now, by the way… take a drive out to the beach. 👏👌❄️) And make a day of it reading a favorite book, sipping bubbles like the rockstar you are, and giving zero f*cks about advertising that makes you feel like you need a certain body to wear a bikini.
OR. If it was to be more confident getting out there on the dating field, put on some red lipstick, make a dating profile, buy yourself some flowers, spritz on your favorite perfume just to run errands, or high-tail it to a bar to people watch (or mingle 😉) with a fancy martini… whatever makes you feel as beautiful, confident and adored as you imagine being in that future relationship.
The trick is to not overthink it, but to just take one teeny tiny step in the direction of whatever it is you desire. To add it to your life NOW and see what happens. YOLO, as they say. Worst-case scenario it’s a funny story to laugh about one day when you’re old and gray, and best-case scenario it’s life-changing and frees you to a new level of health, happiness, confidence, pleasure, and fun in your life today, right now, as you are. ❤️
“Oh my God, what if you wake up some day, and you’re 65, or 75, and you never got your memoir or novel written, or you didn’t go swimming in those warm pools and oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly and you had a nice big comfortable tummy; or you were just so strung out on perfectionism and people-pleasing that you forgot to have a big juicy creative life, of imagination and radical silliness and staring off into space like when you were a kid? It’s going to break your heart. Don’t let this happen.”
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